When we make the halal hard,
The Haram becomes easy. Mark my words
brothers and sisters.
I’m talking to the parents. When you make the
halal hard, The haram becomes easy. When you make the halal easy, The haram
becoms hard. Open the door for marriage InsyaAllah, and lower the dowry, and go
in accordance with the Quran and the sunnah.
There is a culture among the
youth which i fear and that is that they are turning away from marriiage and if
they get married they divorce very quickly. Brothers and Sisters in Islam, do
not let the idea of haram relationships get the better of you. A lot of youth
they come to me and they say... brother, I want to get married but i need to
get to know girl and the girl says i need to get to know the guy. How am i
meant to get know them if i don’t go out with them?. F we don’t have coffe
together, like the west teaches. Brothers and Sisters, let me inform you about
something very important and you will never know your future wife or you future
husband. If you just go out together, you’ll never know them.
Take it from a person who has
lived in a country where people do this all the time. Because when you go out together,
you are on best behaviour, you are on best looks, the best cologne the ck
perfume is on you. And she’s got versace and she’s come out ready to meet you.
She’s probaly looked at the mirror and spent about half an hour practising how
to talk to you. And you aswell, looking at every little hair on your forhead,
every little hair on your cheek. This all fades away within about six months of
your marriage. The only thing that’s left is the character you will never know
the true character of this person, until you meet them in their home you go the
Islamic way and you go and ask for their hand in marriage to their father
first.
A lor for youth, they come to
me and say:
I need to get to know te girl
first and subhanallah how quick they are to jump on where what do they jump on to get to know them? The
Internet and Messaging (Text) and they start conversing.
Are you interested in marriage?
She’s on the others side, she’s
got a username first right?
Let’s chat,
How did you know i was a
sister?
Oh you know i looked at your
profile, you had some really... I’m interested in that too.. and they just get
into this conversation and comes up to me and says brother, brother... it’s in
the interest of marriage. You know my intentions are pure. Your intenstions are
pure?? You’re doing this for Allah (SWT) but you’re doing it your way? What do
you think.... you’re making up your own religio now? So they chit chat and they
chit chat right.
Irst they attract each other
then tehy meet each other. Then, they look at each other it’s all good till now
right? They have’t touched then they want to touch the the touch turns into
somethins else and then finaly they fall ‘In Love’. In Love? If you only knew.
Brothers and sisters, you don’t
know what love is. This is not love this is lust. The girl is thinking, oh how
romantic he is. He’s like that movie i watched the other day. The boy, he thinks he’s rambo walking.. you
know tensing his muscles. She’s thinking how romantic he is walking me through
the garden and the roses and the butterflies he is got one thing on his mind
and he’s thingking i will tolerate all of this. Unil i get to what i want. If
he’s a muslim you ask him about his sister, he will say, i’ll kill any guy who
looks at her. If you want to marry someone then you go in the right way
insyaAllah. Go trough her father first before you go trough the girl. Why? My
sisters i’m talking to you now. Sisters,you’ve never been a man before you
don’t understand how men think. Let you father do the work InsyaAllah. And
obviously the fathers, i encourage you to be a bit more courageous and find
husbands for your daughters. Don’t sit there and make it difficult. Open the
doors for marriage InsyaAllah. And lower the dowry and go in accordance to the
Quran and The Sunnah.
So the brother comes to the
father and the father likes him. Then you meet the doughter and if you fall in
love with her Alhamdulillah.
But the other way, if you fall
in love with each other you come to ask her hand in marriage and then the
father says, over my dead body. What are you going to do then? You’ve fallen
foir each other what are you going to do? The boy is dreaming about her and
she’s dreaming about him. He’s the love of her life. She’s the love of his
life. Tha’s what the syaitan tells you.
What are you going to do ? they
start to cry. They wanna commit suicide. So they elope (They eun away together)
so he goes and marries her for two months. That’s what happens my sisters. And
tha’s one of the reasons why divorces happen. He doesn’t want you anymore. There
are brothers who get married and they want to marry a second wife. In culture
you know in arab culture for example marrying a second wife it’s difficult. So
what do they do? They go for converts (to Islam) they marry them, two months,
there months down the track and then they divorce them. This is haram. Haram to
use and abuse. There are married couples who are stricken by this internet
business and facebook. And there Allah (SWT) has given you this halal for you
at home. And there are ssters who Allah (SWT) has given you this halal man at
home, but for some reason curiosity gets the better of you and you go to search
the world and divorces occur as a result. Fear Allah (SWT).
My brothers and sisters you are
only puting yourselves into harm and our children are baing neglected our
children are being taken away by others and they are being raised by other
people. While the husband and wife are too busy with their desires .
Coppy Right : Bilal Assad
