Haram Relationship and Marriage

When we make the halal hard, The Haram becomes easy.  Mark my words brothers and sisters.

 I’m talking to the parents. When you make the halal hard, The haram becomes easy. When you make the halal easy, The haram becoms hard. Open the door for marriage InsyaAllah, and lower the dowry, and go in accordance with the Quran and the sunnah.

There is a culture among the youth which i fear and that is that they are turning away from marriiage and if they get married they divorce very quickly. Brothers and Sisters in Islam, do not let the idea of haram relationships get the better of you. A lot of youth they come to me and they say... brother, I want to get married but i need to get to know girl and the girl says i need to get to know the guy. How am i meant to get know them if i don’t go out with them?. F we don’t have coffe together, like the west teaches. Brothers and Sisters, let me inform you about something very important and you will never know your future wife or you future husband. If you just go out together, you’ll never know them.

Take it from a person who has lived in a country where people do this all the time. Because when you go out together, you are on best behaviour, you are on best looks, the best cologne the ck perfume is on you. And she’s got versace and she’s come out ready to meet you. She’s probaly looked at the mirror and spent about half an hour practising how to talk to you. And you aswell, looking at every little hair on your forhead, every little hair on your cheek. This all fades away within about six months of your marriage. The only thing that’s left is the character you will never know the true character of this person, until you meet them in their home you go the Islamic way and you go and ask for their hand in marriage to their father first.

A lor for youth, they come to me and say:

I need to get to know te girl first and subhanallah how quick they are to jump on where  what do they jump on to get to know them? The Internet and Messaging (Text) and they start conversing.

Are you interested in marriage?

She’s on the others side, she’s got a username first right?

Let’s chat,

How did you know i was a sister?

Oh you know i looked at your profile, you had some really... I’m interested in that too.. and they just get into this conversation and comes up to me and says brother, brother... it’s in the interest of marriage. You know my intentions are pure. Your intenstions are pure?? You’re doing this for Allah (SWT) but you’re doing it your way? What do you think.... you’re making up your own religio now? So they chit chat and they chit chat right.

Irst they attract each other then tehy meet each other. Then, they look at each other it’s all good till now right? They have’t touched then they want to touch the the touch turns into somethins else and then finaly they fall ‘In Love’. In Love? If you only knew.

Brothers and sisters, you don’t know what love is. This is not love this is lust. The girl is thinking, oh how romantic he is. He’s like that movie i watched the other day.  The boy, he thinks he’s rambo walking.. you know tensing his muscles. She’s thinking how romantic he is walking me through the garden and the roses and the butterflies he is got one thing on his mind and he’s thingking i will tolerate all of this. Unil i get to what i want. If he’s a muslim you ask him about his sister, he will say, i’ll kill any guy who looks at her. If you want to marry someone then you go in the right way insyaAllah. Go trough her father first before you go trough the girl. Why? My sisters i’m talking to you now. Sisters,you’ve never been a man before you don’t understand how men think. Let you father do the work InsyaAllah. And obviously the fathers, i encourage you to be a bit more courageous and find husbands for your daughters. Don’t sit there and make it difficult. Open the doors for marriage InsyaAllah. And lower the dowry and go in accordance to the Quran and The Sunnah.

So the brother comes to the father and the father likes him. Then you meet the doughter and if you fall in love with her Alhamdulillah.

But the other way, if you fall in love with each other you come to ask her hand in marriage and then the father says, over my dead body. What are you going to do then? You’ve fallen foir each other what are you going to do? The boy is dreaming about her and she’s dreaming about him. He’s the love of her life. She’s the love of his life. Tha’s what the syaitan tells you.

What are you going to do ? they start to cry. They wanna commit suicide. So they elope (They eun away together) so he goes and marries her for two months. That’s what happens my sisters. And tha’s one of the reasons why divorces happen. He doesn’t want you anymore. There are brothers who get married and they want to marry a second wife. In culture you know in arab culture for example marrying a second wife it’s difficult. So what do they do? They go for converts (to Islam) they marry them, two months, there months down the track and then they divorce them. This is haram. Haram to use and abuse. There are married couples who are stricken by this internet business and facebook. And there Allah (SWT) has given you this halal for you at home. And there are ssters who Allah (SWT) has given you this halal man at home, but for some reason curiosity gets the better of you and you go to search the world and divorces occur as a result. Fear Allah (SWT).

My brothers and sisters you are only puting yourselves into harm and our children are baing neglected our children are being taken away by others and they are being raised by other people. While the husband and wife are too busy with their desires .

Coppy Right : Bilal Assad